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The Language of S.L.A.A. Recovery

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Excerpt from the Welcome Pamphlet
©1997 The Augustine Fellowship, S.L.A.A., , Inc.  All rights reserved.
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Many different terms are used during S.L.A.A. .  While many terms are used differently in various S.L.A.A. Groups, we will attempt to define a few of these terms as commonly used in S.L.A.A.

A in our behavior that involves stopping the addictive pattern – one day, sometimes one minute, at a time. Abstinence is a beginning point in .

Acting Out
To engage in addictive behavior.  Engaging in a behavior which is one's bottom line, is often referred to as having a slip.

The compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment.

Bottom-Line Behaviors
Generally, self-defined activities which we refrain from in order to experience our physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual wholeness.

Self-defined, self-protective limits we use for interaction with persons, places, things, or activities.

Sometimes known as “feedback”. To respond directly or indirectly to what someone has shared in a meeting; for example, to offer someone answers to his or her problems, or to engage in dialogue during the meeting.

Group Conscience
A process of decision-making by the group.  S.L.A.A. encourages all members to express their views.

Inventory or “Moral” Inventory
A list of qualities within a person, both positive and negative, discovered through self-examination. Also to take someone else's inventory: to judge another person's life or sobriety.

To withdraw from the help and healing process of others, program support, or our Higher Power.  Isolation often leads to or accompanies a slip. Isolation may also be a form of acting out for anorectic members.

S.L.A.A. Member
Any S.L.A.A. participant who has a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love .
Sobriety     Initially, a state of abstinence from addictive bottom-line behaviors; often accompanied by the return of sanity, choice, and personal dignity that comes from abstaining from bottom-line behaviors.

Sobriety Date
Generally, the date we stop engaging in our bottom-line behaviors.

A person who works closely with another member to provide individual support and guidance in applying the S.L.A.A. Twelve Step/Twelve Tradition program.  A sponsor should be a person we are not in danger of acting out with, nor are likely to find intrigue with.

A person, place, thing, or environment that sets off an urge to act out.

The physical, mental, emotional, and often spiritual upheaval which generally accompanies the break in our addictive pattern.

Manipulating another person in , especially a newcomer, into a sexual, emotional, or romantic relationship.

Open or Closed Meeting? 
S.L.A.A. members highly value our tradition of . Group conscience determines whether a meeting shall be open or closed. In general, the following guidelines are used:

Open Meeting       A meeting open to anyone who wants to find out more about recovery from sex and love addiction.

Closed Meeting     A meeting open only to those having a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.