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Conference Steps, Traditions, and Concepts Committee: Questions from the Fellowship – Part 2

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The comments below were given by various members of the Conference Steps, Traditions, and Concepts Committee and do not represent a group conscience of the entire committee. The opinions expressed here are solely that of the person giving them. Take what you like and leave the rest.

The Question

Response #1:

All groups, including intergroups, are autonomous.  The Traditions do not protect us from bad behavior, but if we follow the guidance of the Traditions bad behavior can be avoided.  It appears that this Intergroup is not behaving within the spirit of the Traditions, but they have the right to be wrong. I suggest that we all spend more time studying the Concepts as well as the Traditions.   More discussion leading to substantial unanimity is always a positive.  Avoiding acts of government is a good idea.  Not providing services to our members and member groups is a failure of our service bodies. There are open meetings and closed meetings; the health of our fellowship requires both.

Response #2:

Per Tradition Four, each group (including Intergroups) is autonomous.   So, the decision to de-list an individual meeting is ultimately up to the local Intergroup.

However, there are other Traditions that also apply to this situation.

Tradition Five instructs us that our primary purpose as a group (including Intergroups) is to help the suffering addicts.   De-listing a meeting would make it harder for an addict to find the meeting, and therefore it would be counter to this Tradition.

Tradition Three provides the basis of an S.L.A.A. group.  There only needs to be two or more people gathered together with a desire to stop acting out in the disease.  This meeting would seem to qualify as a legitimate S.L.A.A. group.  De-listing a legitimate S.L.A.A. group would not be in keeping with this Tradition.

Tradition One is the key to our success as a fellowship.  Our common welfare must come first, and our recovery depends upon unity.  Removing the meeting from the website and Intergroup is not a unifying action.

So, while the Intergroup certainly has the authority to de-list a meeting, it would not seem to be in keeping with the overall spirit or intention of the Traditions.From a personal perspective, 99% of the S.L.A.A. meetings I have attended have been open to everyone, identified as sex and love addicts or not.   My experience is that some newcomers are not yet ready to identify, and we have allowed them to work through the process.   Also, I fully support having professionals in the meeting.  By bringing more awareness of our disease and program to the professional community, I believe that we are potentially helping addicts find our program.

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The CSTCC is a group of volunteers, some of whom were ABM delegates, and others who volunteered out of interest. We do not represent a group conscience of S.L.A.A., but are committed to bringing thoughtful discussion and study of 12 Step Fellowship literature and experience to the questions that are brought to us. We offer this summary as the results of our discussions. We present the major points of concern in the hopes that wider discussion in the Fellowship will help us evolve our customs and practice of the S.L.A.A. program of recovery to better represent the loving guidance of a Higher Power. Always, we affirm the autonomy of each group and the need for each individual to follow her/his own conscience. No decision of this group, or any other, is ever forced upon another, even when we believe a practice is clearly in conflict with the Steps, Traditions, or Concepts.